1. Refrain from saying anything of a derogatory
nature about the other parent in the presence of the child(ren).
2. Refrain from bringing up past grievances
regarding the other parent to the child(ren).
3. Refrain from discussing financial and legal
issues and disputes with child(ren).
4. Refrain from saying anything which might
discourage the child(ren) from spending time with the other parent, and from
pressuring the child(ren) to take sides against the other parent.
5. Spend as much time as possible with the
child(ren) during the time you are responsible for them.
6. Carefully avoid scheduling or arranging
activities for the child(ren) which are likely to conflict with any time
period allocated to the other parent.
7. In the event that you are unable to keep the
scheduled arrangements with the child(ren) on a given occasion, notify the
other parent at the earliest possible opportunity.
8. Arrange ahead of time for both parents to be
authorized in writing in case of emergency to take any and all actions
necessary to protect the health and welfare of the child(ren).
9. Keep the other parent advised at all times
of your current residence address, telephone numbers (home and work), your
child(ren)'s school or child care facility, and the location where your
child(ren) will be spending any extended period of time (four days or more).
This information is not to be used for the purpose of harassing or annoying
each other in any way, but in case of emergency.
10. Since it is both frightening and damaging
for children to be exposed to violence and parental conflict, avoid arguments,
fights, and threats in the presence of the child(ren).
11. Since child(ren) need to be able to depend
on and to trust both parents, keep the agreements and promises you have made
to the other parent and to your child(ren). This means being reliable about
keeping appointments and schedules, being prompt, and not making promises to
children that you cannot keep.
12. Cooperate fully, not only in carrying out
the written terms of your court order or agreement, but in living up to the
underlying spirit of the order as well.
13. For your child(ren)'s sake, make a special
effort to set aside your personal feelings toward the other parent and
maintain an attitude of tolerance, flexibility and good faith.
